Having a Threesome? Here's are the Best Positions to Try

Sexual fantasies are totally normal — and one of the most common is having a threesome. Before you jump into bed with your two other people, it’s important to know which positions are your biggest bang for your buck (puns intended). Having an idea about who does what, what goes where, will go a long way for maximum pleasure and comfort. After all, things can feel pretty crowded and awkward if you’re not clear about what will actually make you feel good.

Before engaging in your threesome, Aliyah Moore, Ph.D., a certified sex therapist, says it’s key to remember to get everyone’s consent “and communicate, communicate, communicate. Be sensitive to each other’s comfort levels. I can’t stress this enough, especially when there’s a noob among you. This ensures that all of you are in sync, having fun, and will gain more pleasure than pain from the whole experience.”

Below, Moore recommends threesome sex positions that can work regardless of the parts you and your partners are wielding.

The Oral Triangle

“Oral sex is always a great place to start to get everyone’s motor running,” Moore says. “Sure, there’s some multitasking involved, but this position gives all partners the same level of attention and time they deserve. Whether you’re experienced or new to threesomes, this position ensures that everyone feels they’re being taken care of, so no one feels they’re being left out.”

How to do it: Partner 1 rests their head on Partner 2’s thighs and goes down on them. Partner 2 does the same to Partner 3, then Partner 3 to Partner 1.

Pro tip: “Another variation is to have everyone lying on their sides in a circle, servicing each other. Ideally, the position should form a triangle, hence the name.”

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Double Oral

How to do it: The ultimate oral fantasy where two partners get on their knees and take turns giving head to one partner. If the receiving partner has a penis, one giving partner can focus on the penis while the other can focus on the balls. Or, if the receiving partner is into analingus, one giver can blow him from the front while the other can rim him from behind.

69 + 1

How to do it: The 69 partners face each other while ensuring their heads are positioned in each other’s genitals. The top partner should be at the edge of the bed. Next, the penetrating partner positions from behind for vaginal or anal sex.

Pro tip: “What makes this 69 threesome twist great is that it not only works for FFM or MMF triads but all types of threesome configurations. You can even bring some sex toys in your arsenal, like a bullet vibrator or a magic wand massager, to enhance the sensations for all parties involved.”

Double Cowgirl

How to do it: The penetrating partner lies on their back while one receiving partner straddles him traditional cowgirl style, and the other receiving partner straddles their face to receive oral sex. Partner 2 can straddle the penetrating partner in either direction, of course, “but if both partners want to interact with each other, like kiss and touch each other, they can choose to face each other.”

Doggy Train

How to do it: To do this, the male partner penetrates one partner doggy-style. The middle partner then either eats out or penetrates the head of the train using their finger(s) or a penetrative sex toy like a dildo. The head of the train must also bend forward in the classic doggy position.

This position is great for male partners who like to see the backdoor view of their female partners while both are on all fours,” Moore says.

Pro tip: “While the head of the train may not get a lot of view from the action, you can all do this in front of a mirror, so they don’t miss out. Or they can amp the pleasure by using a vibrating toy to stimulate their clit while the middle partner penetrates them with their finger or dildo.”

Threeway Spooning

“Spooning sex position is great for threesome partners who want to keep things intimate,” Moore says. “It allows for shallow penetration and frees both hands to explore each other. It can also be a breather from all the threesome acrobatics you just did or will be doing.”

How to do it: All partners get into the spooning position by lying on their sides. Then, the two partners penetrate the person right in front of them, either vaginally or anally. Now, start with slow, rhythmic thrusts.

Pro tip: “Make sure that you communicate a lot so movements remain coordinated. Avoid creating too much space between you three, or else someone will slip out. Moreover, make sure you use lots of lube to keep the action going.”

The Human Centipede

How to do it: “Okay, I don’t mean the gross 2000s horror film, but somehow that’s the picture (except for the icky parts),” Moore explains. “So basically, all three of you are on your knees, rimming the person right in front of you.”

Pro tip: This position is perfect for all three people who are into rimming or analingus, so all threesome configurations can do it. It’s a great starter position before you go all acrobatic and explore different penetrative sex positions like the ones I mentioned above or in the next section…

Double Penetration Faves

Cowgirl (Classic) Double Penetration

How to do it: One of the men (giver) in the MFM/MMF triad lies down while the woman (receiver) faces him, climbs on top, and rides him. Then, the other man inserts his penis (or finger/dildo) into her anus from behind.

Pro tip: “Make sure that both penis owners aren’t thrusting at the same time. If this happens, one of them could easily slip out,” Moore says. “Another tip is to have the person with the shorter penis penetrate the woman first (usually vaginally) and then the one with the bigger penis second (usually anally). Doing so ensures fewer chances of slipping out.”

Moore adds that double penetration doesn’t require two penises. “If this position proves challenging, you can always use a finger, dildo, or another sex toy to penetrate the female in the MFM/MMF triad vaginally and anally at the same.”

Reverse Cowgirl DP

How to do it: This position is pretty similar to the classic cowgirl for when you have at least one partner with a vulva. And now, that person will be in the reverse position as the receiver lies on one giver with their back to his chest. The giver then slides their penis/toy into their anus. The other giver then comes in front and slides their penis/toy into her vagina.

Pro tip: “This is quite an excellent position for triads who prefer to do the same move for extended periods as the body alignment allows easy movement. And the best part? It works for threesome noobs, too.”

DP Doggy

Getting into the doggy during DP is one of the more challenging positions to do,” Moore says. “But when done right, it’ll reward everyone with sensual physical contact plus some arousing and intense views.”

Moore adds there are also variations to the doggy for different triads that don’t involve double penetration. “For example, one giver penetrates the receiver either vaginally or anally, while the receiver gives the other giver a blowjob or a rim job. You choose. When both male partners are on their knees, you call this position the Spit Roast.”

How to do it: Like the classic doggy, the receiver has to go down on all fours. Then, the giver who’s gonna penetrate her anally will have to do the “crouching tiger” position on top of her and gently insert his penis into her anus. The other giver also comes in from behind and inserts his penis into her vagina to close the deal.

Pro tip: The DP Doggy is a fantastic threesome position, especially for MMF triads with a bi-male involved. They get to enjoy the rear views of two lovers in the same stance.

Missionary DP

How to do it: The receiver lies on her back with her legs spread apart. Then, one giver assumes the ‘crouching tiger’ stance on top of her and inserts his penis into her vagina. The other giver then comes in behind the first one and slides their penis into her anus.

Pro tip: “This position is perfect for receiving partners who want to use their free hands to explore their bodies (e.g., clit stimulation) as well as their partners’. The receiver still lies on her back for this position and gets penetrated upfront.”

Standing DP

How to do it: One giver stands in front of the receiver (also standing), chests facing each other, and penetrates her vaginally. The other giver comes from behind her butt and penetrates her anally. Both givers can spread her legs and lift her holding her thighs and butt to adjust the thrusting.

Pro tip: “The best part about this position is that the receiver gets to enjoy suspension in between the two guys. This leaves much room for caressing, kissing, and nipple sucking.”

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